Legal gay marriage is still a relatively new phenomenon. As gay men who are now able to get married, we find ourselves in a bit of a quandary: for many male couples, sex is a lot more important for us than it is for heterosexuals. Two married men often have a stronger desire for sex - wanting more of it and with a wider variety of partners - than married opposite-sex couples. How does this work within the structure of a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage? Assuming that gay marriages will emulate heterosexual marriages is neither a valid nor a helpful assumption. But, as gay men, where does that leave us? There are currently no "rule books" for how a marriage between two men could or should work. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay wedding, there are virtually none that address what to do after the honeymoon is over (literally and figuratively). This book fills that void. It offers married gay couples (and gay men considering marriage) an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can use to help create, adjust and structure their marriages. Using helpful examples and first-hand quotes throughout, Openly-gay psychotherapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers a roadmap for gay men who want to be married but have questions and concerns about monogamy and monotony.
About the Author
Michael Dale Kimmel, CBT, MSW, LCSW is a psychotherapist in private practice with a long history of creating and facilitating innovative workshops for the gay community. His website - www.lifebeyondtherapy.com - has received over 22,000,000 hits and over 1,500,000 unique visitors since its debut. He has offered workshops for gay communities all over California on topics such as: "Balancing your Heart, Mind and Libido"; "Blame, Revenge and Forgiveness"; "Celebrating our Sexuality"; "Cultivating Self-Esteem"; "Dating with the Buddha"; "Finding and Keeping Your Perfect Partner"; "Gay Sons, Straight Fathers: Acceptance and Healing"; "The Goodboy/Badboy Workshop"; "Monogamy or Open Relationship?"; "Thriving - not just Surviving - in our 40's, 50's and Beyond"; "Is Happiness Different for Gay Men?" and "What Do You Do When You're Not Young and Cute Anymore?" Currently, he writes the "Life Beyond Therapy" column for: Gay San Diego, the Erie Gay News, the Gayzette and The Letter, He has been a consultant on gay-related issues for Southern California news programs over the past decade and, in recent years, has written for publications including: Buzz, Lavender Lens, LGBT Weekly, The Bottom Line, The Gay and Lesbian Times; Counselingmen.com; Expession magazine; Gay News Network; Gayfriendlytherapists.com; Pink News; Positivearticles.com; Pulp; Rage; Sarah Lawrence College Magazine and SDGLN.com (San Diego Gay and Lesbian News).